You’ve decided on divorce, which is a huge decision but only the first of many in the process. Overwhelmed by what lies ahead? Take a deep breath and look at this list of divorce advice for women confronting the issue of divorce:
- Choose your lawyer wisely. Interview a handful of experienced lawyers that specialize in marital and family law. Choose someone who you feel comfortable with and you believe will effectively advocate for your rights.
- Understand your joint finances. Get as much information as possible on your shared accounts to be prepared for court. This includes making copies of bank statements, investment account statements and any other proof of joint marital assets. In addition, gather documentation regarding any other asset acquired by you or your spouse during the marriage.
- Calculate your living expenses. Do this before the divorce proceedings start so you can have an estimate of what to ask for.
- Start a divorce calendar. Use it to record meetings with lawyers, court dates and deadlines, and timesharing (visitation) dates with your children. In a heated divorce, the calendar may also be used to keep track of discussions with your spouse and any time he violates a court order or agreement.
- Create a system for organizing all the divorce paperwork. Some women prefer putting all papers in chronological order in a three ring binder. Others opt for setting up individual files for various categories of divorce papers.
- Do not discuss divorce disputes with your children or allow them to hear you discuss these issues with others. Divorce, when handled improperly, can leave emotional scars on your children.
- Get therapy if you need it. Talking to a professional may prevent you from bottling up your emotions or inappropriately using your children as a sounding board.
- Support your children’s right to visit their grandparents and extended family. This helps minimize their anxiety over the change that divorce will bring.
- Never put children in a position where they have to choose between parents. Read our blog on Parental Alienation to learn more about the serious impact this can have.
- Stick to your normal routine. Don’t skip meals, change sleeping habits or isolate yourself from your friends. This will help you keep things as normal as possible in your life.
Divorce can be an intimidating undertaking, but you don’t have to go it alone. Consult with a lawyer who will help you understand what lies ahead and assist you in navigating what lies ahead.
Board Certified Marital and Family Law Attorney Charles D. Jamieson understands that divorce is an extremely sensitive and important issue. Thanks to extensive experience and a focus on open communication, Attorney Jamieson adeptly addresses the complex issues surrounding divorce while delivering excellent personal service. To discuss your divorce situation, please contact The Law Firm of Charles D. Jamieson, P.A. online or call 561-478-0312.
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